Archives for October 2005
Following my previous post on why pastors should become better listeners I now point you to John Piper’s recent, valuable piece on “Ten Reasons to Listen to Questions Before You Answer“.
Here’s a quick summary:
- It is arrogant to answer before you hear.
- It is rude to answer a half-asked question.
- Not answering a question before you hear it all honors and respects the person asking the question.
- Careful listening…often reveals that the question…is really more than one question.
- A question sometimes reveals assumptions that you do not share.
- Questions usually have attitudes as well as content.
- Questions have context that you need to know.
- Questions are made up of words… These words may not carry the same meaning for both you and the questioner.
- Proverbs 8:13 says it is our “folly” to answer before we hear.
- And finally Proverbs 8:13 says that it is our “shame” to answer before we hear.
ThinkChristian points to Barna’s new book and a recent article about Christians leaving the church and notes they’re “claiming that leaving the church is actually helping them become more dedicated followers of Christ.”
Can leaving the church actually be good for some Christians? Is this really where the church is headed? Will Christians truly grow and mature as believers–will they be effective for Christ apart from involvement in the local church? What do you think?
SpunkyHomeSchool shares a proper perspective on blogging and homeschooling success for Christian families.
Josh Mack shares some wisdom for us preachers and teachers who ought to be sure we’re listening, avoiding the “flapping lips syndrome”.
It means I need to actually be interested in others. I have to work on wanting to know what’s going on in their life. I have to care so much about them that I allow them to talk to me in their own style, not getting upset that they use more details than I do or maybe less. I need to let them be interested in what they are interested in, and try to be interested in it at least while they are talking about it, maybe not because it fascinates me so much, but instead because I love them. (more)